Sex During Pregnancy: What’s Safe, What’s Not, and How to Keep Intimacy Thriving

Let's talk openly about something many Kiwi couples wonder: is sex safe during pregnancy? Pregnancy brings a whirlwind of emotions, changes, and sometimes uncertainty especially when it comes to intimacy. It's completely natural for couples to feel hesitant or concerned about whether they should continue their usual sexual activities during this special time. However, the reassuring truth is that, for most healthy pregnancies, sex is not only safe but beneficial. Maintaining intimacy can help you relax, strengthen your emotional connection, and foster deeper bonds with your partner as you navigate this exciting new journey together.

What You Need to Know about Sex During Pregnancy

In general, sex during pregnancy is completely safe and often highly recommended by healthcare professionals. Your baby is safely cushioned by the amniotic fluid, the strong muscles of your uterus, and protected further by a mucus plug that seals your cervix. These protective barriers mean that, under normal circumstances, sexual intercourse poses no risk to your baby. In fact, intimacy during pregnancy can significantly benefit both partners by reducing stress, enhancing sleep quality, and boosting emotional connection. That said, your experience and desires might fluctuate due to hormonal and physical changes always honour your comfort levels and openly communicate with your partner about your needs and boundaries.

When to Avoid Sex During Pregnancy

While intimacy during pregnancy is generally safe, certain medical conditions might make abstinence necessary. It’s essential to consult your midwife or doctor if you experience symptoms such as unexplained vaginal bleeding, cramping, leaking amniotic fluid, or if you have conditions like placenta previa, risk of premature labour, or cervical insufficiency. If you're experiencing a high-risk pregnancy, your healthcare provider might recommend abstaining from intercourse for safety reasons. Always follow your healthcare professional’s advice carefully, and remember there are many non-penetrative ways to maintain intimacy safely during pregnancy.

Safe Sex Positions During Pregnancy

As your pregnancy progresses, you might find that certain sexual positions become uncomfortable or awkward. This doesn't mean intimacy has to stop; instead, it’s a wonderful opportunity to get creative and discover new comfortable positions that accommodate your changing body. Positions like spooning or side-lying keep pressure off your abdomen and allow for gentle, comfortable intimacy. Woman-on-top is another excellent choice, as it enables you to control the depth, rhythm, and pace, ensuring maximum comfort. Use pillows to support your belly, back, or legs to enhance comfort, and keep experimenting together to find positions that feel enjoyable for both of you.

Tips for Enjoying Sex Comfortably During Pregnancy

Staying comfortable during sex in pregnancy is crucial. Firstly, take your time, there’s no rush. Communicate openly about what feels good and what doesn't. Pregnancy is an ideal time to explore non-penetrative intimacy, such as sensual massage or oral sex, especially if intercourse becomes uncomfortable. Introducing a gentle lubricant, like Share Satisfaction Water-Based Lubricant, can significantly enhance comfort by easing friction and reducing sensitivity. Be patient with yourselves, experiment comfortably, and prioritise gentle pleasure to make your intimate experiences during pregnancy memorable and satisfying.

Recommended Products to Enhance Intimacy During Pregnancy

Just because your body is changing doesn’t mean pleasure should take a backseat. In fact, many couples find pregnancy an opportunity to explore new ways to connect and discover different types of touch and stimulation. At LoveStash, we’ve carefully selected pregnancy-friendly products that prioritise comfort, safety, and mutual pleasure, so you can keep that loving connection strong throughout all three trimesters and beyond.

• Share Satisfaction Water-Based Lubricant: This gentle, pH-balanced lubricant is a pregnancy-safe must-have. Designed to reduce friction and dryness, it makes intimacy smoother and more comfortable especially when hormones cause increased sensitivity.
• Pjur Woman Vegan Water-Based Lubricant: If you prefer something ultra-mild, this vegan formula is fragrance-free, glycerin-free, and made for sensitive skin, ideal for use during pregnancy when your body is extra delicate.
• We-Vibe Chorus Couples Vibrator: This wearable vibrator is flexible and body-safe, designed for couples to enjoy during penetrative sex or external stimulation. It adapts to your body, with remote and app control to make shared pleasure easy and hands-free even with a growing belly.
• Satisfyer Pro 2 Generation 3: Known for its gentle air-pulse technology, this clitoral stimulator offers contactless pleasure without the need for penetration, perfect for days when your body craves sensation but not pressure.
• Intimate Earth Ease Relaxing Anal Silicone Glide: For couples exploring backdoor play, this relaxing glide contains clove extract to help soothe the area and make anal play feel less intimidating and more enjoyable.
• Shytoy Vibrating Anal Stimulator: Small, soft, and beginner-friendly, this gentle stimulator is ideal for experimenting with anal pleasure during pregnancy when comfort is everything.
• We-Vibe Vector Prostate Massager: For partners who want to explore prostate stimulation, this high-quality massager offers targeted, ergonomic pleasure and is perfect for mutual play and connection.
• Fun Factory VIM Vibrating Wand: A powerful wand massager that’s not just for orgasms, also use it for sensual full-body massages to relax sore hips, tense shoulders, and tired backs during pregnancy and postpartum.

Why These Products Are Great During Pregnancy

All of the products above are selected for their thoughtful design, safety features, and adaptability to the changing needs of your body during pregnancy. Here's what makes them perfect for this chapter of your life:

• Body-Safe & Hypoallergenic: Made from high-quality silicone and free from irritating chemicals or fragrances, safe for even the most sensitive skin.
• Gentle Yet Effective: Designed to offer satisfying stimulation without aggressive intensity, these toys support pleasure without discomfort.
• Non-Penetrative Options: Products like the Satisfyer Pro 2 and wand massagers allow for thrilling external stimulation, great when penetration isn’t appealing.
• Comfort-Oriented Design: Many of the devices are ergonomic, wearable, or flexible, making them easier to enjoy during all stages of pregnancy.
• Intimacy Boosters: These tools aren’t just about solo play, they’re designed to help couples stay connected, curious, and close.

Conclusion

Pregnancy is a transformative time, full of changes, but that doesn’t mean intimacy needs to be put on pause. In fact, many couples find it’s a time to grow closer, explore new ways of connecting, and deepen their emotional and physical bond. By understanding what’s safe, embracing gentle and supportive products, and keeping communication open, you can maintain a fulfilling sex life throughout all three trimesters. Whether you're soothing sore muscles with a massage wand or trying a new couples toy together, pregnancy can be a beautiful opportunity to redefine pleasure, on your own terms, with comfort and confidence.

FAQs

Is sex safe throughout all stages of pregnancy?

Yes, for most people with a healthy pregnancy, sex is safe during all three trimesters. Your baby is well-protected by the uterus, amniotic sac, and cervix. However, if your midwife or doctor has given specific advice based on your medical situation, always follow their guidance first.

Can having sex harm the baby?

No, penetrative sex will not hurt the baby. The baby is cushioned by amniotic fluid and protected by strong uterine muscles. You may feel more pressure or sensitivity as your belly grows, but your baby is completely unaware of what’s going on during intimacy.

What’s the best position for sex during pregnancy?

It depends on your comfort! Positions that avoid pressure on the abdomen such as spooning, woman-on-top, or side-lying, are often more comfortable in the second and third trimesters. Use pillows or wedges to support your body as needed.

What if I don’t feel in the mood?

Your libido might fluctuate during pregnancy, and that’s completely normal. Hormones, fatigue, and physical discomfort all play a role. Don’t pressure yourself. Intimacy can take many forms, including cuddling, massage, or just being emotionally close.

Can I use sex toys during pregnancy?

Yes, absolutely! Many sex toys are safe to use during pregnancy, especially external vibrators, wearable couples toys, and gentle massagers. Look for toys made with medical-grade silicone, like the We-Vibe Chorus or Satisfyer Pro 2. Just be sure to clean your toys thoroughly after each use.

What lubricant is safe during pregnancy?

Water-based lubricants are the safest choice. We recommend the Share Satisfaction Water-Based Lubricant or Pjur Woman Vegan Lubricant. Both are gentle, non-irritating, and ideal for sensitive skin.

Are anal toys safe to use while pregnant?

Yes, with proper care and caution. Use plenty of lubricant, go slowly, and make sure your toys have a flared base. Choose beginner-friendly designs like the Shytoy Vibrating Anal Stimulator for gentle, safe exploration. Always listen to your body and stop if anything feels uncomfortable.

Can sex induce labour?

In late pregnancy, sex may help soften the cervix thanks to prostaglandins in semen and can trigger mild uterine contractions especially if you orgasm. That said, this is generally safe unless your doctor advises otherwise. If you’re past your due date and healthy, a little intimacy might even help things along!

What if we still have concerns?

Never hesitate to ask your midwife or GP about your specific situation. Every pregnancy is unique, and they’ll be able to give you personalised reassurance or guidance. And remember, there’s no “normal” way to be intimate during pregnancy. Do what feels right for you and your partner.